Wild Love: Quickies – LEO Weekly


This is a preview of this week’s Savage Love. The full version is now available exclusively on Dan’s website, Savage.Love.

Q: I am a 40 year old female, cis-het. I have very demanding tastes in men and I always end up alone. A way to be more open without sacrificing my standards?

A: Either you’ve had a terrible streak of bad luck – assuming you’ve dated more than ten men – or you’ve set your standards incredibly high. Some food for thought: You may think you want a long-term relationship because you’ve been told that’s what you’re supposed to want – you’ve been told that’s what all good people want – but you actually don’t want a long-term relationship. They don’t make you happy. But instead of telling yourself that you’re a good person who prefers short-term relationships and/or being alone, you’ve set your standards so high — you’ve sabotaged them — because you want to be alone. And instead of owning that about yourself, you find fault with the men you date. PS There is no installing without installing.

Q: Is there a way to enjoy anal while having a hemorrhoid?

A: No, sorry. You have to wait for it to heal.

Q: I am a 36 year old male. If I’m too horny to stay hard for (extremely rare) anal sex with my wife, should I just take Viagra?

A: Well, it depends. Does your wife like long anal sex sessions? If the answer to this question is yes, then Viagra could help you. Because in addition to helping you get hard and stay hard, Viagra and other erectile dysfunction drugs can delay orgasm. But if your wife doesn’t like long anal sex sessions — if she generally wants you to hurry up and get the ass fucked — going longer could make those already rare anal sex sessions even rarer. Maybe try a cock ring instead?

Q: Any tips to help a penis last longer when penetrating other than cock rings? (Cock rings are great, but they don’t help with longevity.)

A: Cock rings are great; I recommended them to another reader five seconds ago. But while a snug but not too tight cock ring can help keep a penis wearer’s penis hard by gently restricting blood flow out of the penis wearer’s penis, cock rings do not “last longer”, for example, they do not delay ejaculation. (Cockring 101: Gentle restriction is good; trapping blood in the penis is not. Cockrings should fit snugly, not tightly.) If you’ve ever tried all the standard advice for treating premature ejaculation (that I’ve covered it before and don’t have the space to re-re-re-repeat in a Quickies column), an ED drug like Viagra might help (for the reasons mentioned above); a low dose SSRI is also an effective treatment for premature ejaculation. PS Whenever someone writes “penishaver”, my slightly dyslexic brain reads “penis-halver”, as in someone cutting a penis in half – which some people in the body modification community have done, and bon appetit to anyone brave enough to do a Google image search.

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