If you’ve suffered from erectile dysfunction (ED), you’re not alone. Erectile dysfunction affects 4.3 million men in the UK *, and if it only happens occasionally, it’s unlikely to be anything serious.
If you are worried, you can ask your pharmacist for advice; treatment is available over the counter to help relieve symptoms.
“When a man shows symptoms of erectile dysfunction, it can affect his self-confidence in the bedroom,” says Sarah-Jane Swanley, sexual health counselor. With the help available for this medical issue, here are six ways for you and your partner to relax about erectile dysfunction, reconnect sexually, and regain confidence in bed.
*Men reporting occasional and frequent difficulty getting or maintaining an erection [ref. Kantar TNS Omnibus Survey Dec 2010 – in a survey of 1,033 men]
Reconnect with your partner
Some men can feel lonely and isolated when they’ve suffered from erectile dysfunction, so it’s important that you and your partner spend time together doing the things you’ve always loved: socializing, going for walks, going to the movies, music. This time will give you a lot to talk about and help you reconnect as a couple.
Get a medical examination
Talking about erectile dysfunction in a calm, non-judgmental way, away from the bedroom, will also help you come to terms with it and come up with a plan of action to deal with it.
Help is available. Because erectile dysfunction is a medical problem, you can visit your pharmacist for a discreet consultation. After talking to you, and if the pharmacist thinks it is okay, they can provide you with VIAGRA Connect® over the counter to treat your symptoms of ED. VIAGRA Connect® works by relaxing the blood vessels in the penis, to allow more blood to flow through them, which gives you an erection when you are sexually aroused.
After sex, your erection should subside as it normally would.
The pharmacist will recommend that you make a follow-up appointment with your general practitioner within the first six months after taking VIAGRA Connect®.
Relax before bed
“It’s important to put a relaxing buffer between the stress and strains of work and family life and bedtime,” says Sarah-Jane. “Dating is a great idea because it can bring something back to those heady days when you first met and the relationship was new and exciting.” Something as simple as curling up on the couch with a few episodes of a favorite catch-up show can be relaxing before bed.
Create an attractive environment
Nothing breaks the spell of going upstairs after a romantic evening like baskets of laundry thrown on the bed, damp towels on the floor, and sheets that could badly need a wash.
Make your room an uncluttered, clean room, stress free sanctuary, with freshly laundered bed linen, dim lighting or candles and soft music – a place you would love to spend time making love with your partner.
Focus on the excitement
You’ve created a relaxing bedtime environment, now it’s time to focus on what turns you both on. You may enjoy watching erotic videos, reading erotic fiction passages, wearing sexy underwear, or playing with sex toys, in which case, go for it.
“If you don’t feel 100% comfortable doing any of these things, then don’t do it, as they can make the intimacy look artificial and defeat the object as a whole.” , advises Sarah-Jane.
Stand out from the penis
The penis, clitoris, and nipples are the most obvious erogenous zones for both men and women. But when it comes to regaining confidence in bed if you’ve suffered from erectile dysfunction, it helps to distract from your penis and others, more unexpected erogenous zones.
Your skin, with its multitude of nerve endings, is an integral erogenous zone, depending on how it is touched.
Kissing, hugging, and cuddling increase the connection between you, and focusing on foreplay rather than jumping straight into penetrating sex boosts the arousal. You will both appreciate the extra time spent touching and stroking, and you may not need to go as far as penetrative sex to achieve orgasm.
“When the emphasis is on foreplay, it relieves the man from ‘doing the deed’ and couples can enjoy a different kind of sex. Confidence will develop and penetrative sex can resume in its time. », Explains Sarah-Jane.
VIAGRA Connect® 50mg film-coated tablets. Contains sildenafil. For erectile dysfunction in adult men. Always read the instructions.