Should I tell my husband’s new young wife that he needs Viagra to wake up?

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DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband had affairs throughout our marriage and has now left me for a woman who is half his age.

What she doesn’t know is that he can’t play without Viagra.

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I put up with his antics for nearly 30 years

I put up with his antics for almost 30 years and even our children don’t know why I put up with his affairs.

He is 57 and this woman is 28 with two young children. I am 52 years old.

I’m so sick of this latest humiliation that I’m tempted to warn her that she better make sure he’s stocked up on his little blue pills.

I am a yoga teacher and I have always taken care of myself.

My husband is a track and field coach and has always been a womanizer.

He had an affair years ago with the mother of one of his athletes.

I found a secret phone in his gym bag and the messages on it were from that mother – they were dirty.

He admitted the affair and we had some advice, but it was not successful.

He didn’t commit to the sessions and on the third he announced, “We’re done here.” Then he flew away.

If I mentioned this woman again, he would say, “It’s all in the past.

But months later, he was up to his antics again. I found another secret phone with lots of messages from different women.

One morning I freaked out, accusing him of sleeping with someone who had a pulse.

He didn’t deny it but instead of being sorry he said he had to clear his head and walked out.

When he returned, it was only to collect clothes, toiletries and his precious blue pills – of course.

We argued, he blamed me for not showing him enough affection, but I never stopped loving him or offering him sex.

My kids say he moved in with this young woman.

What does she see in my old man who can’t get up without help?

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I was tossed aside like an old garment as he went after a trophy girlfriend.

He makes me feel like a failure.

DEIDRE SAYS: You are not a failure, and he is the one who has the problem.

He’s in a role where he’s admired and maybe he’s always had women fall at his feet, but he’s never really grown up.

You’ve put up with a lot for too long and now is the time to learn to value yourself.

Trying to humiliate him may seem satisfying in the short term, but won’t actually help you overcome this hurt.

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