DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband refuses to see his doctor to find out why he can’t maintain an erection during sex.
I blame him for putting his embarrassment above my pleasure.
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I’m 43, he’s 49.
Last year my husband received medication for his unusually fast heartbeat.
Since then we have not been able to have proper sex.
He is able to get an erection but everything softens after we start.
Each issue receives a personal response, usually within 24 hours on weekdays.
I know it can be humiliating for him, but I feel like he’s abandoned us and our sex life.
Obviously I’m not asking him to stop taking the meds but he could take Viagra or at least see the GP.
DEIDRE SAYS: You are right not to give up on your sex life.
But your husband probably finds it harder than he lets on. So try not to get angry with him.
Instead, say you want to support him.
You could offer to see the GP with him, to explain the situation and reassure him. Erection problems are a common problem.
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